Change starts with you
Interview by Dr Marina Nani
Do you find yourself driven by a constant endeavor to live up to the high demands a successful woman must meet in 2018? And what is the price?
You have a good education, a well-paid job and the ability to buy what you want, even a wonderful life…But, do you feel your life is meaningful?
Jessica’s story is going to inspire you and help you find the answers you are craving for and find a deeper meaning to your life.
When Jessica graduated with dual degrees at the university and then obtained jobs in the finance industry, she focused on her career and working long hours to achieve nice titles and higher pay.
But she felt depleted, exhausted all the time, and the beautiful feelings of satisfaction did not come true
‘Everything felt meaningless and empty. I was suffering from fatigue syndrome and had to take a proper look at myself. To continue as I did before was no longer sustainable. My only choice was to change my mindset and start listening inward. Slowly but surely it made me feel what values I have, what motivates me and what I need to live a life that's right for me.’ Jessica told us
Do you recognize yourself? Then you are not alone. Read Jessica’s story and be inspired to make a strategic change.
Why did you write the book Stress Management for Women?
My life has been characterized by a constant endeavor to live up to the high demands I put on myself. I was trying to please others by working more hours and taking on more responsibilities. I just couldn’t say no because I didn’t want people to think I was incapable. Being a perfectionist, I always wanted to perform at the top, regardless of the negative consequences it had on my health. For a long time, I was not listening to my body and I ended up suffering from burnout and I had to take a proper look at myself. Everything felt meaningless and empty. I knew I could not continue as I did before as it was no longer sustainable. My only choice was to change my mindset and start listening to my own needs. Slowly but surely it made me feel what values I have, what motivates me and what I need to live a life that's right for me.
I wrote the book, because I believe that more and more women are struggling with stress and are finding it difficult to cope with everyday life. In this book I share tools and exercises that helped me make the changes I needed in my life, and I believe they can help and empower many other women too.
Your Son, Ethan is 1 week old, and first book was published two weeks ago. How do you feel about what happened to you in the last month?
So much has happened in the last month and I have a lot to celebrate. I launched my book Stress Management for Women which has got me really excited about my future as a stress therapist.
One of the most life-changing moments I had recently was giving birth to my son Ethan and becoming a mom. I now have a small family which brings me more joy, happiness and purpose in my life.
What is your advice to women who feel pressured to give up their career when they give birth?
It’s important that we allow ourselves to feel and get in touch with our needs, feelings and wishes. It gives us the opportunity to take responsibility for our reactions and deepen our connection with ourselves. When we’re honest and true to ourselves we should lead our life on our own terms and not on others expectations.
What is the key message for the readers in your book?
Many books have already been written about stress, but many are generalist in nature and few speak about the different ways in which men and women experience stress. These differences have been a key consideration for writing this book. Science shows that women and men are programmed to react differently to stress and need different things to lower stress levels. Men tend to disengage from whatever is causing them stress, while women generally want to create a connection, ask questions and share their problems with others.
One body of scientific thought claims that women are experiencing more stress nowadays because they are being made to channel too much of their masculine energy. Women need to find a balance between this masculine and feminine energy in order to lower stress and find equilibrium. Socialising, intimacy, physical touch and expressing feelings are all examples of things that increase the hormones estrogen and oxytocin, and thereby lower stress in women.
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